Learning to Want More

I know the title might throw you off, but I mean just as it says.

People everywhere need to learn how to accept and find the love and friendship that they need. With this being said, everyone needs different things out of their lives. Personally, I need more attention than an introvert, and less that an egomaniac. To some I could be seen as an ego maniac for needing attention, and I am okay with that, simply because I know that is something that I need to be happy in my own life.

Attention is just one of the many facets that come into play when discussing what you need out of your own life. People also need love, friendship, self-care, etc. If in any way you feel these things are not being fulfilled then what's stopping you from seeking more out of your life?

Often times I find it hard and or upsetting to have to disturb the flow of things in order to seek what I need. For example, what if you're in a toxic relationship (friendly or romantic) and this person just makes you feel small and unloved? Is it worth taking a beating mentally just so they don't get their feelings hurt?

If this is EVER the case you should seek out more in your own life. Find what you need. Find who you need. Find whatever makes it so you can live a full and happy life.

If you are in a position of knowing that someone makes you unhappy, why would you keep letting them put you down? I got into the pattern of letting people treat me poorly, and not asking myself why I kept letting them do it to me? My only defense? I wanted more for myself. I felt unloved and not needed, so why would I stick around? I got more for myself

Though separation can be dramatic and painful, time keeps going and life moves on. You are not going to be sitting there on your death bed asking yourself why you ended a friendship because you thought it would make yourself happy. You are going to be thinking about all the wonderful things that you sought out in your own life, and all the wonderful, loving people that you let into your life because you decided you wanted more.

Above is a TED talk on healthy relationships, that I found to be something good to think about. below here is a link to a website that describes types of abusive relationships and their traits, if any of these hit a little too close, maybe you should seek out more: kidshealth.org/en/teens/healthy-relationship.html?WT.ac=t-ra


I wish you all happy loving relationships,
Olivia

Dangerous People

Yesterday I did something, according to others was stupid, but I did it regardless. I decided it was time for one of the poisonous people in life to be gone. I did the whole 9-yards, un-added on every platform available, and phone number deleted. And as I did this I asked myself if it was a good idea, and my justification was yes. Yes, it is okay to cut people out of your life that no longer make you happy. Yes, it is okay to save your memories with them, but if you know the happiness you once felt with them has fleeted, and will not return, why on earth would you keep that around?

I don't want to be lectured about what I've done. I'm finally proud of myself for taking charge of my friendships, and cutting out the people who only take from my happiness and not add to it.

If you have a relationship that you're tempted to go back to that you know will not be healthy, DELETE THEIR NUMBER! UN-ADD THEM ON FACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM/ETC!

If they never make you happy, why should they get to be around you?

Thanks for letting me rant, and have a good day!

Olivia

Xoxo